Monday, September 7, 2009

Back on the Glorious Big Yellow Bus

If you’re a mom there are a couple of different camps regarding back-to-school.  There are the very vocal, can’t wait for the school supply letter type and the other who don’t want to look too anxious to get rid of their kids.  They say things like, I will miss them! The house will be so empty without them.  They were a joy this summer.  We had such a great time together.    Those mothers are the ones I would like to choke.

Each June I look forward to the end of school.   I long for days where my mornings are not:  “Where’s your homework? No, you have to go to school. Did you put it in your back pack?  You know if you would PUT it AWAY at night like I tell you to we wouldn’t be searching for it now.  You’re not sick.  Get dressed.   Do you have your lunch? If you feel worse later have the teacher call me and I’ll pick you up.  Why don’t your shoes match?  I’m sure you don’t have a fever.  What permission slip? No, I do not think you have the flu.  What do you mean the bus is here?”

Summer is supposed to be a time filled with fun.  If you add it up; we did a lot.  A handful of day trips in the city, trip to Grandma & Grandpas, Grandpa & Oma came here for a visit, lots of beach days, swimming in friends’ pools, movies, and don’t forget the various camps and lacrosse tournaments. 

042 But I still have work to squeeze in now and again.  Sometimes it rains and we can’t do the beach.  Sometimes the car’s in the shop and we’re not going anywhere.  Sometimes it’s so freakin’ hot that you don’t want to get out of the air conditioning.  The kids got up later and later which forced their bedtimes later (which forces my bedtime later).  Neighborhood friends were gone; visiting their families or in full day camp. 

And oh—my—god—the—fighting.

So when the school announced they were starting a week earlier than usual I felt a little woozy.  It’s been months of togetherness. I need to miss them a little.  There is the increased rigidity of watching the clock and arranging my entire life around the rest of the family’s schedule.   But there is that brief moment, around 9:20 when the last one has left on the bus and it’s just me and the princess and I cannot believe the quiet that has blanketed the house.  

I feel my heart rate slow down.  I warm my coffee in the microwave, pick up my to-do list, look at the clock, and calculate how many hours until the first one is home.

8 comments:

Rossgirl614 said...

Great blog Claudine! I feel exactly the same way. I love summer, but can't wait for those kids to get back to school by the end because yes...oh-my-god-the-fighiting! Except for the part where I have to go back to work because I work at a school - that part I could sure do without!

Peggy Bourjaily said...

My daughter isn't yet old enough for school or summer vacation, but i clearly remember my mother counting down the days to when we'd be returning to school and giving her a little peace:)

Claudine M. Jalajas said...

I'm sure my mother never felt this way--we were all angels and absolute joys to be around. I do remember her sitting at the table in the morning with her coffee though. I'd walk in and she'd look at me and sigh, "Oh.. you're up.." At the time I was annoyed by this--but now I get it. Sometimes I'm barely through my first cup of coffee when my daughter comes barreling out of her room. And this means that quiet time is over. It's time to start the day...

Alexandra Grabbe said...

I can still remember how quiet the house became after my kids had left for the first day of school. I would make myself a cup of tea, once they were off with their back-packs full of new pencils, wearing new clothes, and just sit in front of the window for a few minutes, amazed to be alone. Your blog brought those moments thirty years ago back. Thanks!

Brette said...

Today was our first day back and I felt the same way. We had a great summer, but I'm ready for a little space! It was sooooo quiet here today and I got a lot of work done. But I also found time to make them a special afterschool snack. And then they came home and I heard about the forgotten lunch, the lost schedule, the collapsing locker shelf, the math quiz......

jenhaupt said...

My boys are now teens, one in college, and I do still love the summer when they're hanging around the house!

debbie koenig said...

My son's only in preschool, but I so hear you on this. We had a 3-week gap between "camp" and "school," and I was counting the minutes until he went back this week. Rationally, I know I'm not the only one who thinks this, but I can't help feeling guilty. Sigh.

Claudine M. Jalajas said...

Debbie, Guilt is the hormone that you develop immediately after childbirth...